We embrace our love with our heart and mind, not our eyes and we fall in love with only these three shades of people in our life time. Each time we fall in love for a different reason and it has different definition and expression for love.
Three different shades of love will help you to connect to the relationship that you have in your life, letting you understand that love comes in different shades of color.
First Shade: Attraction
Love is never immature even if it happens at a tender age for the first time or even in high school. At the young age, they are fearless, they live with less fear and more love.
The first shade of love is special and opens our heart because it is the most innocent and pure form and it defines us and the perception of the love. It makes you smile when you are having your worst day. This type of love fulfills our dreams from our youth and our ideas of what we expect love to look like. It also fulfils the need of the society’s expectation. Sometimes it doesn't turn out like you want it to be, but in the end it will all be okay and it never dies. This love keeps us alive and it encourages us to keep moving forward. It is one of the most important experiences in our lives from holding hands to that awkward exciting kiss; everything is a magical moment, just like a fairy tale. But, not to fall in trap of idealising about the first shade which may distort the idea of how actually true love should look like.
All of us were kids once, so we all know, what it’s like? One day we will be telling our own kids about our first love.
Second Shade: Falling in love
The next shade, the second is the hard love. This shade of love teaches us the tough lessons of falling in love. In this love, we believe we are doing things differently, but we are not. In reality, we hang on and are making choices out of the needs to learn lessons. However, here we grow, feel the pain and realize what we need out of this love shade. The issue in this shade is we believe over and over again that it comes to an end and different this time. But there can be lots of drama because of the manipulation, emotion, mental and physical abuse.
Love Hard or Hard Love?
This kind of overwhelming love is unstable; it has to be an expression of your being, rather than overwhelmed emotions. As we grow older, fear grows stronger with the emotions. But love is not the part of the emotions. It doesn’t behave the way emotions do. Real love is in a category of its own. Everyone’s got their own emotions. Don’t we? But ‘overwhelmingness’ of feeling, hate, anger or anything will lose your heart in it and it leaves you behind in loneliness and in sorrow.
Heart Break always hurts and it’s ok to walk away:
It reshapes your understanding of love. It hurts a lot, gets in deep trouble and nothing can change that. There is no point in fighting with the non existential. It is like fighting with the fear of darkness.
We would come to the acceptance that nothing last forever. But time, situations and people all change. All we need to do is to accept the reality, move forward and figure a way out.